If someone violated your consent, I think everyone will agree that person was fucked and we're all very sympathetic. But the story as you've written it says you got caught up with how turned on you were, and then sounds like after the fact you decided you have post nut remorse. It reads like this all happened online, where at any time, you could just close the window and nope out.. in which case I'm not sure what you want from the community? Are you a grown ass adult with agency and the ability to use a computer? If so, why is this an occasion for sympathy? I'm very unclear. Do you expect the internet to prevent horny people from making impulse decisions? How do you imagine that might work?

You absolutely shouldn't have faith in this or any other internet community. The internet is full of people lying about everything about themselves. Some of those people are abusers. Most of those people are of the view that a conversation on the internet is a creative writing exercise combined with masturbation and you can click X whenever you want. I don't think many people give an especially large number of fucks that you didn't enjoy your internet wank.

If by moved off of reddit you mean you met IRL, how did this person lie about tgeir location? You say held us all to different standards - how many people were at this orgy that you went to willingly 30 minutes after chatting a stranger on reddit? And again, how do you propose that the internet might have protected you from your own horny decisions?