They don’t believe in therapy

The number of times I wanted to email his therapist to let her know what she was hearing was a piece of mangled Swiss cheese & all the professional validation was harmfully enabling a mutated narrative!

He would come to me & talk about how they talked about why I was the way I was in therapy, how perhaps my past trauma made it so I couldn’t show up or take accountability for my actions, how my past relationships may have impacted how I couldn’t ever apologize the right way, or how I didn’t have a handle on my own issues & needed to put them in a safer place so I didn’t keep re-traumatizing him.

The worst part is that I believed all of it & it wasn’t until my own therapist caught on to what was happening (quite quickly, she’s amazing) that I realized he was externalizing & projecting & his therapist is none the wiser

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