I don’t desire a girlfriend/wife like nearly every other Christian guy I know...

You're having sexual thoughts because that's normal for humans. There's exactly as much reason to ashamed of one's sexuality as for one's nose. Literally none.

There's also nothing wrong with dating girls without having the intention to eventually marry them. Be honest to yourself and to girls about what you want. That reduces the chances of anyone getting hurt.

It's perfectly normal not having dated girls at your age. You're building up pressure where it isn't warranted.

Sex is fun, if everyone involved gives enthusiastic and informed consent. There's nothing disgusting about it. Almost every animal you've ever seen has sex or wants to have sex.

Shaming people for natural behavior like their sexuality is one of he many problematic aspects of christianity.

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