Don’t Fall For It

He tried to say if I’m a healthy person and want to be happy, I should be able to just do that with him and if I can’t, it’s because I don’t know how to be healthy/happy or be responsible for my emotions. I’m like WHOA. Um no sir. The entire reason I’m walking away is because certain people and relationships are just flat out toxic and in order to REMAIN healthy and productive in my healing process, I need to SEPARATE myself from the trauma bond he’s trying to keep me bound in. Sticking with someone not good for me doesn’t prove I’m “healthy”, it proves the opposite. It was disgusting that he tried to make me feel unhealthy for making the healthy choice. He did that a lot. Tried to weaponize my mental illness and make me feel crazy for things I know I was in sound mind about. You don’t stay in something toxic that has only been proven to fail several times. It’s so slow and gradual I almost don’t notice it sometimes- the manipulation. Or maybe he’s just so confused mentally he doesn’t even know he’s doing it. But there’s no way I feel bad for getting back on no contact, shutting it all down and continuing to focus on where I’m at and where I want to go. Those last comments made me feel more sure than anything else that I know I’m making the right call. He’s done trying to confuse me or put me down all the time. I respect myself.

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