I don’t know if I’m being abused.

Oh honey, I want to hug you.

First things first, the fact you are here asking these hard questions means that you, deep down, want your feelings of unease and feeling unsafe to be validated. They are Absolutely Valid.

There is an imbalance in your relationship. There is anger that you’re afraid to trigger, you even said it yourself. There has been hurt but you were afraid to speak out and have that be acknowledged because you feared consequences. Honey, these are HUGE red flags. Your soul knows deep down that this is not ok. It brought you to here. And that’s a great first step.

A lot has happened and you feel alone and isolated. That’s a shame. But you have friends and family, I’m sure, where you were before you moved to this new place. Is there any chance you can reach out to them? Maybe share what’s going on? I’d suggest also reaching out to your therapist and have them help you make a plan.

I’m not qualifies enough to pick apart the issues and get to the root of his anger for you, but I can encourage you to reach out for help. And when more people come onto here and read this, they will give you tons of advise too. Internet hugs

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