I get a lot of questioning people talk to me because I've been trans pretty much most of my life but medically for 8 years.

I find most people who talk to me are self conscious for a social or not gender related body dysmorphia reason. They want to change their life and/or 'fit in' more with society because they think their behaviour, body type or personality would be more fitting with the opposite sex. I usually respond that they probably should NOT be transitioning until they confront those underlying feelings and come to terms that it's OK to be a fat butch woman or a feminine and wussy man. Then decide after therapy if they still feel like they ARE a different gender, not that they "should be". Besides, You can go as far as being a 'he/him lesbian' named "Tom" and still not be trans if you want to.

Another thing I see is people confusing their ideal self with their ideal partner. Thats another thing thats tells me they probably shouldnt transition without further questioning. You don't have to be attracted to yourself. Unless that's what you want?

On the contrary, is the image of a skinny girl actually what you're attracted to, or what you think you 'should be' to be more acceptable rather than what you are and want to be?

Just remember that identity, in all of its aspects, is fluid. Your entire personality will change over time like how every cell in your body is replaced over time. Resisting that will only give you stress and greif. I'm sure your parents have lived long enough to know that.