I don’t mean to offend, but... (a perspective from a teen survivor of whatever-this-all-is.)

kids who have found great foster families who love and cherish them

This is what we are trying to warn you about cuz it isn't a either or scenario where the only two choices are bad biohome or wonderful foster home. There are tons of foster homes like this one that a child can end up in (and this one was planning on adopting him so they at least had the pretense of caring about him but look at what the reality was when push came to shove....)

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/db2itm/foster_son_16m_broke_my_41f_trust_says_he_found/

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