I don’t know what I should feel.

That’s exactly what all Asian women go through. The women in your life probably also go through what you are going through no matter their sizes. I have always been on the fit side but if I gain few lbs it shows on my face and my sisters and mom will comment right away if I gained weight and eating junk food. Whenever I look super fit they compliment way too much that it affects when I gain few lbs that they will say something negative and always trying to look fit. The issue is they were raised that way and taught that way and trying to fit into a mold everyone wants them to be. I started telling them we should not comments on looks because it’s not healthy and how that affects one’s confidence and image of themselves and something clicked in them. My mom was sending these stupid tic toc ads selling anti-wrinkle creams because she is self conscious of her wrinkles.. I told her that we have to love the body we have and wrinkles and everything else is perfectly natural and it’s the nature way. We have to love our wrinkles, freckles and all the “imperfections” deemed unattractive about ourselves. I was made fun of my dark complexion growing up compared to my sisters and I tried to buy all kinds of “whitening” skincare products and went through a toxic cycle of feeling ugly and spending hundreds and hundreds on skincare products.. it took years and years to love myself and I am at a point where I don’t care about how anyone thinks about my body now. Weirdly everyone loves my dark complexion for because they think I look healthy and sporty.. it’s never enough until you start loving yourself and creating boundaries with people around you.

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