I relate, it's something that I'm trying to change in myself. I actually don't enjoy it (I do but I don't, it's hard to explain). It's overwhelming and I'm not sure how to act. I enjoy it in the moment but it just feels to much. And I know it's overwhelming to them. I'd rather pursue friendships/relationships based on common/mutual wants and compatibility. Something where I feel relaxed and comfortable and not weirdly driven to some pull to another.

I've made a girlfriend from work, I don't have that pull. But we get along and have fun when we hang out. I've started recognizing her funny and very nice side. I don't act out or try to do things to get her to like me. Without the pull it's well if she does she does and it's just nice. I'm not wholly invested based off of some instant pull. I'm just enjoying her company. It might get to the point to where I am invested but it's gonna take learning about her, and her about me.