I'm not saying you can't vent, but stop talking about how ugly you perceive yourself to be. I need to vent about my issues just like everyone else does, and bottling is toxic, but saying it's only about looks is inaccurate. There's a whole list of things people perceive as attractive or not, and everyone has different taste. Just because you think your face looks funky doesn't mean all girls will think you're ugly. If you let your other good qualities shine through, then looks can mean nothing. I get sick of people that say it's only hot and/or rich guys getting laid. It's 100% untrue. If the guy is sweet, or has a personality, or can make me laugh, who gives a shit if he's got a little extra chub or is shorter? Who cares if he's a butterface if he's attentive, truly respectful, or selfless? I just get sick of men thinking we're just as shallow as they can be. My original post wasn't meant to be insulting, but of course everyone decided it was a personal attack on them and now I'm pissed that no one's listening to my advice. Maybe I phrased it wrong, but I really didn't need everyone jumping down my throat for even suggesting that they do something about their issues instead of sulking about it... I know I'm not perfect, but I am in therapy and actively trying to improve myself. It seems like everyone in this sub just expects the world to change to tailor to their needs, and that's not how life works.