It's being less subjective. Being objective is being open minded. And I am on several subreddits.. regardless, I am not a troll and try my best to give the best bio feedback possible when asked. You are correct with the observation of thought process. However, it's also about being logical and being a pattern of congruence of that process. The whole reason I replied to the age gap was because of social norms. Society is always saying what's acceptable and not. I find at times there are many flaws within social normalalties. Who's to truly say what is or not acceptable. If the female is of legal consenting age I don't see the issue. At 19 and or 20, she would have been at correct consenting age.

I will add not everyone must hold a degree or be trained. Life experience is the best thing to go off of. When an individual is able to reflect and reshape their though patterns this is part of the process as a therapist... our job is to help provide tools and guidance not give answers.. because everyone has those answers within.. its just guidance of motivation and empowerment to allow others to know they possess those tools. Nonetheless, I am not here for you to change your mind / ideology. I was just stating facts on the situation as a whole.