"I don't like labels" -___-

Romance is so dead. You don't have to compartmentalize everyone you meet, you know.

There are things you don't have to know about someone.

I agree, "I don't like labels," is a very 'cringe-y' thing to say. However, I know how to be assertive, and that includes letting people know that certain things are secret, private, or confidential. I'm not the type of person to kiss and tell, I slipped up once and those girls were too immature to keep their mouths shut after making up some assumptions about me.

I will say, not everyone is like this. Some people like to be mysterious (to what you would call "extra") but they don't know how to maintain mystery. They will say they don't like labels, but they don't know how to hold their tongues.

For me, personally, It's not necessarily about being upfront, it's about respect of privacy, something that seems to be a lost concept in this day and age. Quite frequently, when you remind people that they're not as charming as they think they are by holding them to a certain standard, they'll respect you more, I promise this. If you start sharing every detail of your life, they get too comfortable. I guess this comes with the new technology and culture of sharing, right? Everyone has know to everything about everyone else. How sad.

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