A couple of months ago this is the OPs comment to someone’s else’s post.

It appears the OP knows what’s going on…

“ He is abusing you. I dont put it lightly either. It sounds like the start of him abusing you more and more. Basically, you cook, clean, do everything right, but he puts on more and more pressure. Soon it will turn into, nothing is ever good enough for him, no matter what you do. Guys who do this, do this so then you dont leave them, because they want you to think you are not good enough for anyone. Its the start of him being a controlling, and emotionally abusive person. Not even the start, but he is well into it now. He isnt trying to toughen you up, he is trying to break you (like when you break a horse so it listens to you), or train you like a dog (I heard guys talk like this before about their wives). (not all guys are like this, but I knew some, dealt with one). And basically the idea is to never be happy with anything the wife does, even though she does it all (or most of it). And saying its not good enough. Its awful. More and more pressure, its a trap. I would either shut it down if thats even possible with him (he probably is used to being like this), or consider making an escape plan in the future if he gets worse, because it often will get worse.”