My hubby and I had the same problem after I had my first child. We had 6 years alone together and during that time I looked great. I used pregnancy as an excuse to eat more. I put on more when my daughter was 3yrs old. Got to the point that he watch porn online way to much and I got used to not have sex maybe twice a month. I dont usually say this out loud due to most women taking this harshly and not fully understanding the rules of sexual attraction. My husband and I had this talk after I lost the weight. He was able to admit that he was not sexual attracted to me at that time. He was shocked to hear me laugh and say well Duh!!! I wouldn't be sexually attacked to you as well if you took a huge change in your looks. Im a huge visual person. I can only get off if I am sexual attracted to the other person. Im very picky as well. Things like perfect teeth smells skin hair is very important to me and a huge turn on or huge turn off. So I understand your worry. We as well still had very much loved each other. So he took his part stopped porn fully. I did my part to find the reasons why my weight loss was not working. For you to say you can try to hold back on porn is lazy. You know you can stop you dont want to. Thats selfish! Do your part and set a goal time frame shoot for 2 months. She needs to see where she is not fully doing her part. Im sure she cheats on her diet. She needs to fully commit. Next stariods are not healthy to stay on long term. She needs to tell her dr how this is effecting her marriage. That she needs him to stop the meds and give her something new at least for 6 months. Telling him that she feels very strongly about this so he doesn't talk her out of it. Also join your wife in her efforts so your two can grow together in this. My husband would go with me on night walks for 30mins b4 bed time. If her heart is healthy and her blood pressure is good have her ask her dr for a diet pills for 2 -3 months short term. If she says short term he should say ok. If not have her ask a diet dr. This is the medication info.
Phentermine is similar to an amphetamine. It stimulates the central nervous system (nerves and brain), which increases your heart rate and blood pressure and decreases your appetite.
This medications doesn't just help her appetite it also makes you burn calories. So if she's working out it helps her twice as much and even works while she rest watching TV. This medication always help me loose 40 pounds in 3 months. After that she's responsible for keeping off. Go to GMC for something more natural that help energy. This will help her keep it off. Encourage her to do girly things incase she stopped doing them. Get her hair done nails maybe new clothes. If she builds up her confidence this also brings the feelings of sexual attraction to men. Thats a woman feels good about herself she shows confidence.
This is always a sore subject because its easy for many to off on this conversation. Say your being a dick! This is so fucked up. Come on the truth is most of us find sexual attraction to be very important in a relationship. So don't feel ashamed for asking for advice or swapping stories. Have comfort in knowing your not alone in your feelings.