Oh please. A month or two ago my wife and I were discussing this topic, and she had the same incorrect idea that you do: that getting sex is equally difficult/easy for both men and women. To disabuse her of that notion I told her to conduct a thought-experiment. Imagine the two of us the day we met - I was 25 and she was 20, I look okay, but I'm only 5'7", while she was a solid 8. Then I told her that she could have walked into any bar in America and announced that she would choose one guy to have sex with, and guys would line up for the chance (except in a gay bar: and maybe even then), and although she might not automatically get the best guy, she could easily leave with one who was pretty attractive. Then I told her to imagine what would happen if I had tried something like that. Not only would I be very unlikely to get any volunteers, but the paramedics would have to pick me up off the sidewalk outside after the bouncers were done with me.

Getting sex from attractive men is trivially easy for women (even relatively unattractive one), while for most men, getting sex from a desirable woman takes a lot more effort. Why do you think that is?

Also, although you downplayed the idea that women can get sex easily, toward the end you bemoaned the fact that you and every woman you know routinely gets so much unwanted sexual affirmation that it makes you feel bad. Which is it? They can't both be true. But I can absolutely guarantee you the vast majority of men you know (your male friends, your male family members, your male peers), don't get even a fraction of the ego-stroking you and other women get from members of the opposite sex.