Please forgive the parent in me coming out here, but are you a minor, and are your parents comfortable with you having private conversations about your sex life with these people?

I ask this because if I found out that my minor child was having private conversations about pornography and masturbation, specifically their masturbation habits, it would trigger all kinds of parental red flags.

I'm not saying that this is not an appropriate topic on which to get spiritual guidance, just that parents, out of desire to protect their children, tend to take a dim view of people who take an interest in their kid's sexuality, except in certain circumstances,(doctors, therapists, sex ed, etc). Those circumstances are usually ones where the parent knows full well what's going on.

If I sent my kid to some kind of teen youth group, and then found out my kid was texting the pastor's wife about porn, and then setting up a private meeting about it...I would be deeply suspicious until confident everything was on the level.

Is there any chance that you can talk to your folks, however awkward it might be, about this issue, or let them know you intend to seek spiritual guidance? Also, do you think your Youth Pastor will need to talk to them anyway.

The best Youth Pastor I ever knew was very clear about boundaries with his youth.

"Promise you won't tell my parents?" "I promise no such thing".

Again, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with seeking spiritual advice here, just that if you're a minor living at home, your parents might be just a bit uncomfortable finding out an adult has been taking an interest in their masturbatory habits.