He works nights and me days. Same amount of hours unless I end up working more and I make slightly more than him. It should be equal but it's not. He has the kids during the day and i have them at night. There's no excuse as to why he can't help other than the fact that he "hates cleaning." Had he been the sole provider for us then hell yea of course I'd do all chores. But I also do all the cooking, cleaning (aside from the 30% listed above), I manage the money/bills, I arrange for things to be fixed other than what he can fix, and I do the shopping. I already know if something happens to me then he'd be helpless. It's unreasonable to expect me to literally do everything while he gets to chill.