I was dumped tonight. He's already back on OKC.

I've been drinking so this is a terrible time for me to reply to this.

I'm sure his life will always be unfulfilling and shitty, I'm not really concerned about that. I am not angry anymore, I just don't wish him well, and struggling to find which flap leads to a vagina would make me laugh.

For you, with this, I just think the rudest way to react to that is telling someone that it doesn't matter who they were cheated on with when it crosses sexuality, because for a long term relationship it implies that there was a whole side to the person you shared your life with that you just never saw/suspected/understood. Further, when someone is talking about a break up and they mention a detail like that, it's a dick move to tell them that that detail doesn't matter. Clearly it fucking matters to me, or I wouldn't have mentioned it at all.

For me, with him, what bothered me the most was how much he legitimately hated himself and how I could have missed that he was hurting so incredibly bad while I was in what I thought was a happy healthy relationship. It makes me legitimately sad to think about how unhappy he is because he tries to convince himself to want one thing when he wants another (his words, not mine, don't SJW me).

And in the present, it's shitty to see that instead of exploring that side of his life so that it doesn't happen again to someone else, he just jumped right into a serious relationship with a megachristian chick who will never even imagine the closet he's locked himself in. It sucks to see someone you actually care about hurting themselves and those around them because they're afraid of what will happen if they do what they want.

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