Hah, I am trying to be genderless as hell, on Reddit - I tried in OkCupid subreddit - it worked very well.

Yes you are right, in order to answer my answer(s) fully, one needs to look at my post history as my inquiries are there - and all of them are serious and true about my situation - except some comments that I have answered to help others.

I, indeed, have not included everything in my post history. From what you have wrote, I think you understand. But I have not written anything regarding the first initial messages via dating app yet. I just somehow have mixed feelings/somehow see mixed signals through messaging on OkC and in person, and after meeting each other.

I used the word 'memorable' in my first message that I have sent while drunk. He added it on with "I felt very comfortable with you and had a great time", to be exact.

So basically, when he first messaged me, I set the setting on OkC to casual sex, because I just wanted it badly at that time - and I am sure he found me through casual sex setting...well, yeah, original messages before meeting was something like that. Both meet for casual sex. That was original intention. Therefore, I was not very willing to meet him the second time (I live far away, the weather was cold, and I just got into new company - first week, at that time, and had to study test (pressured), so was busy)...

Was about to forget him and it all, then he suddenly sent me a one-message 5 days later, which confused me too much, so I was pondering away from that day on...for a month until I have finally decided to send a message (which he never sent one since that day). This time, his e-mail was more detailed.

Ah by the way - he just broke up with a 7-year relationship girlfriend in about 6 months prior (according to him).

--> I am trying my best to hide details as Reddit can be seen by anyone.

--> I haven't mentioned this to him yet, but I am thinking (probably will, if I don't get into Master's) of going back to the place where he lives (where I am originally from)...so yup. Trying to figure things out by my own means.