Early in the relationship my girlfriend found my stash of “nudes” other women have sent me + some personal sex pics I've taken over the years. She asked me to delete them. I told her I did, but I just hid them better.

I don’t have emotional attachment to those women. They’re not ex girlfriends.

It’s purely sexual/fantasy for future use and nostalgia. I’m not insecure about the relationship...but a year in I’m also realistic that anything can happen. Especially due to our specific circumstances (she’s on a work Visa and could be sent home at any time if she loses her job) . I don’t see it too much different than saving porn tbh. If I was looking at them and getting off to them/having sexual thoughts about it all the time that’s one thing... but they’re just memories. Like your dad keeping his stash of old playboys in the garage

It’s not like normal people don’t have flashbacks or fantasies about sleeping with exes or people in the past from time to time even in the best relationships. If you don’t, great. But I think few experts on the subject would say it’s not healthy to occasionally reminise, as long as you're not obsessively hung up on it.

I see your point about lying to her about it. I’m just not ready to delete them at this point. They hold some sentimental value to me.

They're buried and locked in a folder on my computer. None of her business at this point imo. If she finds them some day I'll deal with the fallout

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