I've suffered from emotional binge eating for most of life. I don't know how it was really any different from male to female perspective other than lack of support or questioning why I was eating so much/no one cared about my eating habits/rotundness. Also the feeling of being invisible when obese and trying to attract a partner was a real heartbreaker as well and added to my emotional tumult (early on/before I got married. This also led to a lot of insecurity on my part in my marriage as I internalized my shame and was part of the mutual destruction of my marriage.)

I've since stopped the binge eating and have gained a healthier understanding of my body and it's needs but I wasn't able to do so without the now years of therapy I've been going through to deal with the trauma of my childhood and marriage. My binge eating was just one avenue of addiction and escape that I pursued to run away from my pain and problems.

I've since learned to be mindful of my problems and adopted a "pull mentality" to getting healthy instead of "pushing" myself away from my problems, fears, and shame. I lost the weight once before whilst trying to push myself to a goal and just keep moving as I always did before to survive but that fell flat when the goal was denied and old habits came right back on top of not having a supportive partner.