You learn how to live with your different brain, do you learn how to make things easier for your close friends or loved ones to live with your different brain, or is that our problem?

Because in my experience of having multiple family members and loved ones with Autism, I personally just got treated badly and I'm not entirely convinced those autistic persons were trying at all to mitigate those adverse effects.

Because in a lot of ways that people aren't willing to accept, for Autistic people it is literally all about them.

They understand perfectly when they get upset and why, but are somehow baffled when they do the exact same thing to others why they might get upset.

You can literally reverse the scenario of what they did, and they get why they would get upset if that happened to them, but remain baffled why someone else would.

I do not think there is any kind of malice going on, but is there any kind of effort being expended by the autistic person to help others, or is Autism a catch all for any negative behaviour and we just have to deal with it.

My ex partner told me she could pass the kitchen full of dirty dishes and she didn't really see them and had no capacity to actually do them. Nor could she bring in the bins, mow the lawn or take any interest in gardening outside the building, that our lease required so we didn't get kicked out.

Am I a bad person for thinking this is bullshit?

Because it certainly felt like bullshit.