Embarrassed

My dear, you sound very young. Most women don't look like porn stars. What gave you the idea that men are only attracted to women in porn? I'm not sure where you live, but go out and people watch. Most people are regular people, just like you. Humanity is a diverse crowd. And trust me, most of them are having sex.

are women unattractive if they don’t sound or look like porn stars <

You're putting yourself up against something imaginary. Do you see how insane this is? There's not dichotomy of women being 'porn stars' vs. not being a porn star, with 99% of us falling into the 'not' category and thus not being attractive. Where did you get this idea?

Furthermore, I am wondering why you think that dressing up and talking dirty is equivalent to being pornographic. Is this why it bothers you so much? One doesn't have anything to do with the other.

I agree with others who've said that if you want to 'dress up' you don't have to go outright Fredrick's of Hollywood right away. Wear things you are comfortable in that look nice on you and go from there. Or wear perfume, or do your hair, or whatever.

I start laughing and can’t take it serious <

Sex is supposed to be fun, it doesn't always have to be 'serious' and it's okay if you start laughing. So what? If you start laughing, there's less pressure, it's not a performance, after all, and maybe you can build momentum from there.

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