IMO, and from experience as a client working on this situation, share your feelings with your T. Trying to avoid and bury those feelings could make things worse, without you knowing it. Burying and avoiding some of our issues is some of the reasons some of us decide to go to therapy, we know something is not right and it troubles us, but while in therapy, eventually it gets unburied sort of speak and healing can start. Tell your T in a way that makes you feel comfortable. A letter in the mail, email, read your letter to your T in a therapy session so you don't get tongue tied. If sharing this in person makes you feel uncomfortable ask if you can close your eyes together or face away from eachother while in session so can share these intense powerful feelings. I shared my feelings in an email, was completely panicked and nauseous the entire morning before our next appointment. I didn't make eye contact, though this is me most of the time during sessions anyway and we talked about it. He was very kind. He was glad that I could see the boundaries that needed to be maintained. He even said in some way this is a good thing in the sense that this shows how much we have built a level of connection and trust, which indicates a strong bond for healing for other intense emotions and issues. He said let's both monitor the situation as we go and so appreciated me sharing my feelings with him.

The awkwardness of this is I'm 15 years older than him, I'm a mom, and wife. Technically I could have given birth to my T. This sort of made feel ashamed and dirty. I told him this too. Again he was genuine and kind. It's been about a month now since I shared this with him, and have found the intensity of the feelings to go down. I thought I might have to leave, but I don't feel that way anymore.

I hope this helps. Be aware, that it truly depends on the therapist, many don't know how to handle errotic transference. I was worried about how mine would handle it being 15 years younger than me and relatively young in his practice, but he handled quite well, it gave me confidence in his proffessional abilities for my treatment going forward.

Good luck. I'd be curious how this unfolds for you.

In Liberty