this whole narrative is harmful. it’s the same game we see everywhere else, and the only way to win is to stop playing. we have all experienced a time where we took more than we were capable of giving, as well as a time where we gave so much that we were left hurt and defeated. we’ve all hurt people, and we’ve all been hurt. there are actual steps we can take to heal our own energy and to change our habits so that we don’t encounter such unstable power struggles.

everybody has the potential to heal, but they have to choose to do so. they have to recognize for themselves that they want to, and that they can. when that happens for them is not up to us. people can change, if they want to. but every time we pin a label on them, and every time they believe it.. it makes it that much harder for them to move past that version of themselves. it’s like a spell.

how other people act is a reflection of their own internal state. how we act, and how we respond, is a reflection of our internal state. any time you think you’re judging another, you’re really only judging an image of them that you’ve created in your own mind based off of your own subconscious content. this is how our shadows wreak havoc. (this is exactly what energy vamps do that causes people so much discomfort. they project their fear and pain onto others.)

think about it for a moment. what happened to the soul that used to be a little bundle of light to make it so angry and dark and hungry? what happened to them that caused them to project their pain onto you and seek out your light? they got hurt on a soul level and lost touch with their own light.

i’m not saying that there aren’t people out there who are draining, people who tend to split emotional poison at everyone they come across. they exist. but please be careful of the story you tell yourself about them. often, if you’re willing to look deeper, they’re actually serving you by providing you with an opportunity to learn more about yourself and heal just a little bit more.

theres so much more that i want to say, but i’m recognizing that what i’m doing here is defending my ego. i’m worried that this is going to come across too harsh/angry, but i’m not mad. i’m hurt, because the idea that people are either good or bad caused me a lot of unnecessary suffering. and that really isn’t your problem, so i’m sorry. i just feel like i need to say SOMETHING.

i think this whole thing (energy vamps) is an ego game, and i’m going to see myself out before i get sucked back in. but before i go: if you have someone in your life who you feel drained around, there are a few things you can do. be mindful, and be compassionate. ground yourself and come back to your own presence. learn to set boundaries, even when that means walking away and not looking back. do some shadow work- find out what fear/insecurity/wound you carry that allows them to “get in”. nobody can take your energy from you unless you give it to them, so figure out how you’re contributing and stop doing that. if it’s an emergency, go outside and get as close to the elements as you can. sunlight, water, bare earth, and fresh air all provide us with the energy we need to thrive. replenish yourself in nature, rather than carrying that nasty feeling with you and unintentionally passing it onto someone else.