All I have to say, get ready to enter the Thunderdome to defend your choice for a child free wedding. It will give you a real clear prospective on who will be the biggest pain during your marriage. You shouldn't have a problem with it, as long as people that pass the message on respect it. It was a huge eye opener for me on how my MIL would act. The nice act was over and it's time for the MIL gloves to come off. I wrote about my experience earlier, but my MIL was really pushy about letting let kids attend the wedding. She got to see how pissed off people would get when she allowed kids to show up at my engagement party. (It was hosted by my parents at their home. They hate little kids and "no kids" was very very firm. When my husband's cousin, whom I only met once, showed up with kids, everyone got really angry at me. My friends were pissed they had to find a sitter. My parents were angry I must have said something other than "NO! KIDS!" to my MIL. My MIL was pissed all around, even though she was the one to blame. 'How dare she ask me to tell people no. You put me in an awkward position.' Sort of thing. At the party, people gave the cousin the cold shoulder. It said no children on the invitation and we were not close with that side of the same. I have no idea why they thought it would be ok. I was trying to be polite but honestly, I was pissed at the position I was put in with people I wanted to make a nice impression with. To this day, I think most of my relationship problems with my in laws started from them talking shit behind my back to every person invited to my wedding for over a year. She would just go on and on about "not understanding this nonsense" to everyone on the phone that it came up more than once on my wedding day. It showed how they couldn't respect my request and even though it was decided by multiple people, I'm pinpointed as the main problem. I had people I never met or had any problems with, giving me, the bride, nasty eat shit glares at my wedding. Why even come?! It was a black tie affair, why do you want your kids there? Why are you pissed at me for having a wedding I want? I really didn't expect it to be a huge problem, but it was, because my MIl can't respect what other people want and has to let everyone know.