Okay... so I don’t know about you guys but I go long stretches alone and then sporadically date a ton.
Met 1 ENFP who is of that subtype who resembles an ENFJ? I’ve met 3 like this and they look the same, have the same jawline, facial features, body type and tenor of their voice. Very teacher vibe. Grounded. Can’t really notice Ne. Easy. We were friends for 11 years after. There was no fire or restless nights. Just a good friendship and total understanding.
Two years ago I met a very lively vivacious shiesty little ENFP. ... how do I put this (guilt)... there’s an ENFP MBTI practitioner who is the exact same- even look the same lol. I couldn’t for too long. I read him like a book unbeknownst to him. Both dudes totally shot MBTI down “nothing can label me or put me in a box!” So in my mind I knew we will have a great time for a few hours a week before we clashed and that it was totally temporary. I wanted him to actually say it- be adult. Nope. Of course he “idead out loud “ about moving together to the desert etc etc. Like dude—— I ... just don’t. Either speak the truth or don’t say anything at all. But I still miss him. We clashed a lot. He wasn’t genuine but then was. Age, he was rebounding and had a tough ride. GREAT cuddling. Best hugs ever. EVER.
Yes all caps.
Then .... I came across an ENFP ... it was brief. Powerful weird life changing. Beautiful. Intense would be an understatement. He will never leave my heart. People come and go. Not in a pining longing way... like love lost? But sheer gratitude, well wishing, there was something cosmic, you changed my life for the better kind of way. It’s in my Fi space so... let me flash some more Ne (cuz that shit is mine honey bunny) to distract ya.
A relative who sticks out as he is super kind and down to earth. Hasn’t been too hurt in life so he isn’t jaded. He’s just the embodiment of an ENFP I love. Balanced functions, sense of self, kind, doesn’t know or give a shit about MBTI (although I made him test). We talk for hours. Laugh. Respect each other’s perspectives but feel free to just be ourselves. Perhaps because we come from the same family and grew up in the same sort of dynamic is what helps?
He’s just him. But ENFP.