Because I have time, let me dissect your rant.
First, if you come to me and rant about your problems, it will be hard not to give advice. If there is a problem, there should be a solution. I find that solution, instead of wasting my energy complaining uselessly.
Second, not all INTJ's are "stubborn". I for one will genuinely say "I don't know" or "I haven't studied that" or stuff like that. If I am wrong, I'll accept that. Nothing wrong with accepting my faults. However, first you have to prove that I'm wrong ;)
Third, its not superiority complex or psuedo intelligence. If I know about something, its only because it caught my eye. If it caught my eye, it must mean it is interesting. If something is interesting, I'll learn everything about it. Its not superiority complex if I know a lot in that field. Ask me something regarding history, which I don't know much about, and you'll see me being quiet and just observing from a distance without speaking much. Now my counter question, why are you getting intimidated by this "superiority"?
Fourth, its not my fault if I'm more witty than you. If I 1 up you, it just means you are not witty enough. Its not pathetic, I like people who are witty and can reply sarcastically at an instant. You probably lack that which is why you're frustrated.
Fifth, "when you think you're telling me something I don't already know I know way more about it than you", tell that to my face and I will shut up for good, or ask counter questions to test "how much you know". You should prove that you know stuff instead of just saying it for the sake of saying it.
Lastly, I have my life together the way I want it to be together. Surely, it doesn't fit your taste and that's fine. Its my life and I should live it how I want to live it, instead of living a life that will suit your taste.
Its not that we are superior at all. You just feel inferior around INTJ's which is why you talk about "superiority" a lot. Try to have more confidence in yourself and more self esteem, and a lot of these problems will vanish in thin air.
Some things I can control, some things I cannot control.
Keep that in mind. Its the key for happiness.
(PS: The things I have mentioned are from my perspective and open to debate. Thanks)