[Erection Issues] Performance Anxiety Persistent (M21)

They make pills for that. They really work well (like turn you into an Olympic God). It might get you over the hump, so to speak. Also you might tackle some herbal remedies. Goldenrod (the plant extract) is available in a massage oil and I have had good results with it. There are others. As far as medication goes, I can highly recommend 10-20mg Levitra (vardenafil) which is available by a prescription. It's quite expensive and most insurance does not cover it, so you might want to go to an online Canadian pharmacy to fill the prescription, which is perfectly legal. But this is just a little backdrop to let you know that your problem could have a medical solution or a mental one.

Really what you need to do is tackle what is going on in your head. Once this happens once, you are afraid of it happening again, so you get anxious, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. It's a feedback loop. The more you think about it and dwell on it, the more likely it is to happen. You have to break that feedback loop.

It is helpful to communicate what is happening with your partner. They will likely be very understanding if they have much sexual experience at all. It happens all the time. No big deal. But having them know about it reduces the anxiety and tension. They might also be able to help. During a few bouts with this in the past, I have just asked my partner for a blowjob when I'm having trouble. It will get the erection back, and then you can go for it. If you have a partner with that kind of talent for fellatio, it's almost impossible not to get an erection.

I would also avoid alcohol while you are in this stage.

Interestingly, psychologically caused erectile dysfunction is highly able to be cured by a placebo.

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