Do you ever think about how easy it would be to find someone else to have sex with?

Why do you feel guilty about knowing that you are attractive and that sex isn't that difficult to come by?

After being in a DB for years, I finally caved and cheated. It was the best damn afternoon I'd had in years. OMG. I was practically high all the way home. Then I got home and felt disgusted with myself. I took a very long bath and scrubbed every inch.

Weeks went by. I felt guilty. Then I found out he'd been having sex chats on the internet for several months and going to massage parlors behind my back. Any guilt I had vanished instantly. I realized that I wasn't the problem and hadn't been the problem. He wasn't being a good SO and I was too "nice" to bring it up.

Then we became swingers for a few years. The attention and sex was fairly easy to come by. That made it even more apparent that my husband was the sexual problem at home.

In other words, if you think sex would be easier to come by elsewhere, you may be exactly correct. Enjoy the attention but at the end of the day, you'll still have a decision to make. Parenthood does change things for awhile but it shouldn't be permanent. Good luck to you.

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