3. Have you ever been talking to a guy/girl and they just randomly disappear?

Have you ever been talking to a guy/girl and they just randomly disappear?

Yep. Was talking to a guy "Mike" about a FWB situation. We were going to get together one night to finally meet and a few rather shitty situations (my bank's systems went down and i ran out of gas, got stuck at a gas station with no way to pay). By this point it was like 1AM? I asked my brother for help but he was an ass and wouldn't drive 10 minutes to give me a couple bucks for gas...

"Mike" had already said he was going to bed, but on discovering I had no way home and no help he drove about 20 mins to give me the $5 he had in his wallet. By the time he arrived I had been waiting for over an hour. We make some awkward small-talk... kind of a weird situation in general, I wasn't in a good mood because of everything going on, and he was tired because he had gotten off work not too long before.

I thank him, tell him I'll pay him back and then some when I see him again. I don't remember his exact goodbye but I recall still feeling positive about the interaction on my way home. He even texted me when he had gotten home ("Oh man on the way home I saw a dude at a gas station filling up his car and his pants fell down!"), I sent a response and after that...

Nothing. I sent him a few texts. Said if he changed his mind that was OK, I just wanted him to tell me so I didn't cut ties if he was just busy or going through something. I had him on FB already, and he continued updating it as regularly as he had been. Didn't even respond for me to pay him back for the gas he gave me.

The only thing I could think of was he was not attracted to me. Obviously many pictures had been sent back and forth, which he was very receptive to, he had my FB, dating profile confirmed the fact I was overweight and I never hid that fact. Now... the night we saw each other it was very hot and humid, my hair was kinked up and my face was glistening with sweat. I was looking exceptionally porky and pissed off. Regardless, it was still confusing how someone wouldn't even be honest with me and didn't feel I deserved a response just because they weren't attracted to me.

But, whatever. I moved on from the guy, but it's still shitty thinking about the situation.

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