Have you ever continued dating someone you didn't fall in love with early on? Why?

I knew pretty much from the beginning she wasn't the one. But it kept going for almost three years. It was bipolar. I really enjoyed her family and environment (family, house, wealth etc.) but at the same time I had a severe depression.

I have a really fucked up family and she had actually everything I ever wanted since I was a kid. An amazing lovingly family and the amount of money that you don't have to worry about monetary problems anymore. They had at least one big birthday party a month where the wohle family comes together, I had so much fun with her relatives. We drank together and talked into the night. They also went out for dinner at least twice a week and to karaoke regularly.

It still really bothers me to this day that I wasn't fair to her. I didn't enjoy the time with her nearly as much as with her family. She always went early to bed, didn't drink or smoke and was overall a really boring person. I met her in first week of college but had never as much fun as in this time with her. Besides she had so much I ever wanted, she wasn't doing good at all. She had no confidence, no matter what I said to her. She was in a dancing crew were many of the other girl treated he poorly and I didn't like most of her friends at all. I guess she loved me because I was a bit like her dad.

I have a really fucked up relationship with my family members. I talk as little as possible with my parents who don't support me at all. I haven't seen or talked to my two brothers for years. The last time I saw them, was at my grandfathers funeral (the relative I had the best relationship to). My mom wasn't working until I got 15 and my father isn't good with money. We never had much, but he also spent it in a bad way. So everything related to money was always an issue.

The day I broke up with her after almost three years I immediately knew it was the right decision. Because I wasn't thinking about her, I only thought about the fact, if I breake up with her I will never see her family again, I won't live in that amazing house with pool etc.

So it was a really good choice to end this relationship. I had a depression and wasn't happy at all, specially In the last year of our relationship. I ve gained almost 20 kg / 44lbs and stopped enjoying the things I liked before our relationship.

Now I am much happier, I have still my great friends who helped me a lot and are my real family. I deliberated a lot about my self, learned a lot about myself and had a great relationship over the last two and a half years. It didn't work out for a reason but we are still friends. She helped me to figure out what I want to achieve in my life and I have finally now goals I want to reach. I am really looking forward to the future.

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