I used to be that girl up until I met my current partner, who is so chilled out and laid back. His ethos has always been ‘I don’t expect you to trust me immediately, I know that will take time, and until then I’ll spend my time showing you that you can trust me.’ He was so considerate and gentle with my feelings, my insecurity, my paranoia. When my fears took over and I did things like check his phone, he listened to me as I told him what I’d done and apologised to him, and told me it didn’t matter to him - I was always welcome to look, since he had nothing to hide and he wanted me to trust him. Over time (maybe around 6 months), we got to a point where I was no longer a needy insecure paranoid partner - I know now that if he or anyone ever betrayed my trust, I would be able to walk away with my head held high, knowing it was their fault, not mine, and that I deserve and will find better. We’ve been together around two years now, and it has felt as easy as breathing so far :)