Have you ever found yourself grieving for the person you wish you were? How did you learn to accept yourself?

I’m 27 now and I WISH I was the person I am today in my early to mid 20s. I was emotionally dependent and co dependent on my boyfriend and friends that I was afraid to do certain things alone, as I always cared for what others might think of me if I did do these things by myself. Constantly trying to fit into a social circle (that my boyfriend at the time was apart of) from high school that NEVER accepted me. Dealing with my trauma and insecurities by going out and partying and making terrible decisions, just not thinking of the consequences. I wasn’t aware of my anxiety and depression for a long time, only until last year. My life hasn’t been easy, however it’s shaped me into the woman I’ve always aspired to be. Being emotionally intelligent, having self awareness , social awareness and cultural awareness. I now know my path and where I’m going career wise. It just feels so fucking good to be in control of my own life now. I’ve truly grown as a person and still have more work to do. But I do sometimes grieve and wish I was this person 8 years ago. But, better late than never !

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