Have you ever had a falling out with a close male friend? What happened?

I had a best friend for a couple of years. We had a falling out because he made it obvious that he gave no regards for my feelings, and I was sick of the (emotional) abuse. At the time, I just wanted the guy out of my life, so it was more of a relief than a challenge. I hope he's well and has made progress in finding happiness, but my god I couldn't stay for the ride any longer.

Basically, I'm very nerdy, awkward, and had pretty bad social anxiety in high school. He'd constantly do things like: -find out what girl I liked, he'd offer to talk to them for me to see what they thought of me, then tell me how he's now fallen for her, and he'd ask her out. This happened to every girl I liked in high school (except for the one girl I didn't tell him about, and we ended up dating for about 2 years) -make fun of how terrible I am in social interactions, then claim it was to make me less sensitive -tell me how I'm not physically fit enough and too nerdy to join a sports team at our school. When I'd try to exercise, he'd physically mock me. -ask me to keep him on-track academically (I had a 3.9, and he must have had a 2.5-3.0). When I'd text him the night before an exam or something, he'd tell me to get a life and learn how to make friends The list goes on, but it'd start getting too redundant.

The final straw began when he tried to sleep with my girlfriend; he failed and my gf told me immediately (my ex was a pretty rad girl), and promised he'd never try again, it was just a lapse of judgement. She and I broke up because I was going to college, we began drifting apart and not getting along as much, and I honestly felt like I couldn't maintain long distance, so it was pretty one sided, but not completely (she understood and very reluctantly agreed. Still mostly my decision). Nonetheless, it made me depressed and I began to have suicidal thoughts again (something I dealt with throughout my youth, which he was completely aware of and he always helped me get through them). As usual, he helped me deal with them.

A year later I found out that they had sex within a week of our break-up. I asked him multiple times throughout the year if it happened, he always said no and that I have nothing to worry about. Eventually I asked her, and she said that they "hooked up" (I don't blame her, she was just dumped, she and I are actually still friends). He kept lying about when it happened and what even happened, until she told me they had sex. I eventually figured out the span of days it must have happened, and realized that he and I hung out nearly every day during that time. I was done.

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