Have you ever had your best friends absolutely hate your boyfriend? How did it turn out? Any interesting stories?

My closest friends didn't hate my ex, but they definitely didn't like him and it put a huge strain on our relationships, ending some of the friendships for a while (which have since been repaired, especially now we've broken up.)

They disliked him for a combination of reasons, it started with them being less friendly to him since I had just dated a guy they really liked (who was admittedly a great catch but he lived like 8 hours away) My best friend in particular was also my single partner-in-crime at the time and I think she resented that I didn't go out picking up men with her anymore. As we got more serious, a series of events lead them not to trust him and think he wasn't as emotionally invested as I was.

In the end, the last part turned out to be true. I think these situations are hard, because only you know what you want in an SO and how you are when you're together. If you haven't already, you should elicit actual concrete reasons from your friends and try to assess these concerns objectively. These are the people who know you best and there is likely a reason they feel this way. With my friends, it just gradually became cold and distant because we didn't openly talk about it. I lived with two of them and felt uncomfortable in my own apartment, especially if I was with my ex, which led me to spend more and more time at his place until I was basically living with him. This obviously only only made their resentment worse. I wish I had just had a frank conversation from the start, but I was young and non-confrontational.

How I dealt with it is probably my biggest regret and I would caution anyone from dropping their friends in such a situation.

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