3. Have you ever met someone and thought that you two could have been a good couple...

Have you ever met someone and thought that you two could have been a good couple if you had met them at another time?

Not quite, but I think I have a good example of the inverse happened. Spoiler alert, I was awful and wish everything went differently.

A long time ago there was a girl I was absolutely smitten by. I had met her online when I was in high school, sometime around 2001 or so, and we were good friends for about 10 years. Sometimes we had multiple month or year plus strings of time where we didn't talk much at all but we always came back around to each other. She was long distance but not by much, just about a 2 hour drive away.

Eventually 2011 rolls around, I'm out of college, ready to start a career, I live on my own, I'm an adult, etc... so I confess my feelings, and she decides sure, let's try dating.

Long story short, we were absolutely not compatible with each other for a relationship. She broke it off after not too long, but now we lived together... across the country. So we end up just being roommates for a while. I kept pining, trying to "win" (yuck) her back. She only wanted to be friends, and was getting really upset that I wouldn't leave it alone. Everything nice I did at the time was all transactional, me expecting a relationship as payment for being "nice" (yuck again) doing things for her that she didnt even ask for. She genuinely valued our friendship, I was one of her only friends and she considered me her best friend. All she wanted to do was binge movies, shows and video games with me. And when we were just spending time as friends we got along absolutely famously and had the best times together.

Eventually she started seeing someone, I got upset, moved out, and ghosted her. I haven't talked to her since then in 2013.

It's been another 10 years since, and I am disgusted at my toxic, incel behavior back then. I robbed someone of their best friend, and robbed myself of someone who wanted to be my best friend. It feels horrible.

I wish I met her at a time where I was much more mature and got out of that entire toxic thought process. I'm really sad that I could have had a great friend in her right now, but instead I don't, and it's my fault.

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