Some of these responses are rude / defensive, which is so weird to me.

I don’t like babies, or small children. I don’t want to always have to go to a bar if I’m trying to see friends / guarantee there aren’t children there.

The best thing to do is simply stop going to the person with the kids house. Invite people who don’t have kids to do stuff that you like. As an adult, j feel like “Friend groups” are usually just collectives of people - there need not be any grandstanding or vote-taking or shunning.

Simply remove yourself from situations you don’t enjoy. For me your options are: Spending time alone or expanding your social horizons to include other people who aren’t interested in children. Both are super great!

I get that this is frustrating and you dislike that you have to make these choices, but you ought to start preparing yourself now. My experiences with women who don’t enjoy children is that they’re often put in uncomfortable situations like this - with friends and family.

All I can say is, good luck! And personally, I agree with you. There’s just not much point in doing anything aside from removing yourself. Unfortunately most people would rather distract themselves with children rather than work through their issues or face the difficulties of this world.