Ever talk about dating/online dating with your therapist and just get more frustrated because their advice is no different than what you read here?

When you're an adult, you're likely using dating apps to meet new people because you are not meeting them otherwise in your daily life, be it because of time constraints, the fact that there aren't any outlets to do so in your daily, etc. I think most people have exhausted other options on their way to landing on a dating app.

A lot of solutions sound idealistic. Wouldn't it be great if there was some meetup group or new hobby where you went there, and everyone you met there was "your people"? The reality is that most of those activities end up being a small group of people you'd probably not want to hang around with otherwise. Unless you want to join a Crossfit gym and pay $150/month and the eventual physical therapy bill due to it, these social group daydreams people have are very rarely a thing beyond bigger cities like NYC or LA that already cultivate a large singles scene of dateable/interesting people.

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