Everybody talks about missing or ignoring red flags, but what are some subtle green flags to watch for on a date or with your crush?

All growth comes with a bunch of mistakes and failures. If you don't teach children to admit their mistakes and try to fix them they will learn that mistakes are and by extension growth is intolerable. Instead of growing they will shift the blame elsewhere and generally be a holes.

That's all besides the fact that a person who can't tolerate their mistakes will have very low self-esteem. You will always have mistakes. Your kids aren't dumb and they will figure this out themselves. Teach them that it's ok to make mistakes and they will love themselves and life. Teach them that mistakes are intolerable and the opposite might happen.

Tell your boyfriend that my father used to be "strong". I came to realize that his strength was just weakness and fragility. And when later on in life he learned to tolerate his and my mistakes I came to respect (not just fear) him like I never did as a child.

I'm now fighting with low self esteem and fear of failure that's making it harder for me to grow in life. If you don't want your kids to deal with that then teach them what real strength is.

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