Everyone wants a 'crazy' girl until she experiences actual symptoms of mental illness.

My wife has bpd. There's a level of maintenance that's impossible to need without bpd, but there's also just a level of love and affection that's also probably not possible without bpd.

I'd say the big thing is knowing what it means when she says "can you handle me?" Most women who say that are just degenerate fucks who are gonna cheat on you, take drugs, and live like there's no rules. In my wife's case, it's more like she has a 24/7 obsession with being the absolute perfect partner but sometimes she'll think it's unreciprocated and flip out in the most insane ways.

Examples of day to day struggles are like when I need to work, which I do because I need to work and not because I don't want to spend time with her, and she has trouble getting it. That's the sort of thing that's always there, but can be worked on. Examples of me just telling her she's insane are when it used to be a legitimate cause of fighting that I like yo use the bathroom with the door closed. I just told her she's crazy and she backed off after a while.

Apart from that though, really just an ideal partner. Most affectionate person I've ever met, hypersexual enough to handle my insane steroid libido, and yesterday she spent an hour making me sandwich after sandwich as I sat down eating sandwich after sandwich. Her snuggle needs are top 1%, but she's super hot and I like spending hours with my face in her giant f cups.

"Handling it" can be rewarding if you're handling something other than how low quality the person is.

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