Yo this conversation is crazy unfocused and all over the place now. Yes I meant not to include the characters it happened to prior to the start of the show. Because the whole point of the Theon thing is that people are watching a character go through trauma. All of the original stuff (Dany, Cersei, Sansa, Brienne, Ros/other prostitute) I alluded to happens on screen.

The fact that the women are not being shown as being traumatized by the event is kind of part of the problem. I would love to watch them explore the psychological issues this left any of the female characters with, but these are badly written events that seem to just add shock value and nothing more.

More men die because there are more men in the show. Female characters are just as likely to die as men. The women are dealing with the effects of war just as much as men are. Wildling women die beside wildling men in battle. The Sands die in battle. To me it is not a misery olympics about whether or not men or women experience worse outcomes on the show.

I just think it is notable that this thread was created with the claim that no woman has it as bad as Theon. But they do on other shows (i.e. the Handmaid's tale), and creating the false dichotomy of Theon vs. Sansa fundamentally ignores why people were mad about Sansa.

I like game of thrones. I have few problems with the writers. But I think there is so much dis-ingenuousness in pretending like game of thrones doesn't lean heavily on using violence against women as a plot.