Explain this behavior to me

so your mom is in your way sometimes because the kitchen is narrow, but you wait until literally the last few minutes before you have to leave to pack your day's meals. in your view, your mom deliberately stuffs the narrow confines of your kitchen with her ample ass, gaslighting you with every bump. as she's wrapping up this morning and sees that you're "having NONE of ANYONE" she perhaps absent-mindedly invites you into the kitchen while she finishes spreading her jam; maybe she just needed a second. but you just stand there like a petulant child because you cannot tolerate bumping into your mother. she again tells you that she's done, met with more silent treatment from you. she tells you a third time, but irritated by your bullshit, she "slams" her food down and then leaves the kitchen. where is the narcissism here? like, the actual narcissism and not the relatively innocuous but nevertheless maladaptive behavior that someone might display when they don't want an argument with their moody [adult?] child. maybe your mom is a little space-y and by her own identification, ADHD (she's at least aware that she tends to be forgetful), but it doesn't sound at all like she carried out the kitchen routine with any malicious intent, unless you yourself perceive everything as a slight against you.

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