I (F 27) don't want to break up but he (M 28) already planned ahead.

We are super compatible

You've only been dating for 2 years, that's when the honeymoon period ends for good. As long as you don't continue dating and actually live together, you have no idea how compatible you are.

he is just logical and I guess selfish for wanting to pursue his career

He's at an age where he should be selfish. Again, love isn't enough.... there's clearly many incompatibilities (e.g. your allergies, you not being able to live with him before marriage, him not wanting to get married).

I just never seen him this way until recently which breaks my heart even more.

This is why you date someone before marrying them: to actually get to know them.

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