I (F18) went through my boyfriends (M20) phone and it kinda backfired

I’d be upset if my BF cared what his exes were up too... I don’t know how you can bring it up without telling him what you saw.

You could say something like “my friend is always looking at her exes on FB, and tells me about them. I don’t even know why she cares, there an ex for a reason” to gauge his reaction. He may say something like “yeah that’s stupid” or “well maybe something the ex did popped into her mind and she just wanted to see what they were up to.. no harm in that” something like that.

The only way to hear as to why he is “keeping tabs” on them is to of course ask him flat out. An open, honest relationship is the best. Trust me, you don’t want to get into a pattern of always feeling like he is doing something.. check his phone to either A) not find something or B) find something but not know how to bring it up. Been there, don’t that. Not healthy, and not good for yourself to always worry.

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