I f23 found out partner uses and i reacted badly

You did not over react, if anything you’re under reacting. So much of her story is minimization! Ma two times a week, that’s a lot, and even if it wasn’t she still did a line right before she saw you, even though that was exactly what you were fighting about? Hell no! Shes addicted and this is just the tip of the iceburg. And on top of weekly drug use, and lying about it, rather than respect your physical boundaries she on top of all that continued to try to push past them by being rough with you. Can you imagine how well that would go if you were the woman and she was the guy? Then when she couldn’t use physical force she verbally attacked you? This woman has a serious problem. So I’d end the relationship if I was you or else get ready for more lies, more drugs, more boundary violations and more personal attacks. The cats out of the bag and it’s going to get worse from here on out. Just a quick sample of her bullshit…

She said she thought i was ok with her using and that we could just enjoy some time together tonight since the last time we hung out things went bad.

Nope, any idiot would know that wasn’t ok, she’s lying, she needed/wanted it to get through a tense situation.

said i suck for making her drive 3 hours just to run away like a child just to fit my narrative of trying to punish her.

Nope, you didn’t make her, she choose to drive that, but she’s trying to make it your fault. classic blame shifting defensive behavior to avoid being accountable for her own bullshit and make you feel like you’re the one who’s wrong.

She then texted me i made her drive 6 hours total for nothing

Nope, again she choose that, you didn’t make her.

She texted back saying i exaggerated, 6 hours is a lot and there’s no point in fighting cause we both know we need physical touch

Nope, she’s wrong again, there’s every point to fighting because she’s been weekly using drugs, lied about it, then did more drugs right before seeing you.

Seriously, this woman has issues, stay with her at your own risk.

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