Ok well I know for a fact that my friend personally has absolutely no reason to stay other than being weak minded. Yes she’s insecure, yes she doesn’t know how to say no, those are all traits of being weak and let people shit on you. I’m saying how do we prevent people from having those traits? We need to build girls up from a young age so when they get old enough to date they aren’t submissive like this. That’s why some people walk away and some people don’t in situations where there is abuse and the person has every option to leave. Some people are just too mentally and emotionally weak to help themselves. I understand there are some girls who are isolated or rely on their guy financially or have children with him or some more valid reason that they can’t just walk away. But there are also a lot of people who don’t have any of those reasons and I didn’t see OP mention any of that. I sympathize and feel terribly for people like this, as one of my best friends is in a similar situation. I have spent hours and sleepless nights trying to convince her to stop letting herself be abused. It hurts me so much to watch it. But she doesn’t live with him and and financially supports him. She has every option to very easily leave him and be happy but she just won’t. I’m not saying OP situation is the same. But it clearly has similarities. You and I both know that many women stay long past the time they should’ve left. Just because they hope for change or think no one else will love them. Those aren’t valid reasons to say you were completely raped for an extended time. And I’m not saying it wasn’t rape but... from what I’ve seen in my life. People certainly do allow themselves to be abused for no reason.