Waaait...I think I kinda unintentionally FDS'd a tiny bit though. Despite having a lot of vulnerabitlies for much of my life I always conducted myself as self-assured, was never afraid of having needs and following my genuine desires, etc. In general I didn't give any dudes in my entire life that didn't have their life together a chance surprisingly--and it helped that I always had the best vibe with the guys that did. I was never with someone I had to complain to or nag at as we've always been on the same page.
It never occured to me that I didn't deserve it--early on when I felt insecure I just made sure I improved myself, especially emotionally.