Things are either going to improve in China (doubt it), or they won’t. If you are looking at a potential children angle, nothing is easier than pointing out that when a child is in online elementary school, that child is going to be set back extremely far. It’s an easy angle that most Chinese people would agree with, so it’s an easy way to get them to wake up to the reality that things are not okay in China right now.

Bonus: if you 2 really don’t actually care that much about each other, then during a long distance relationship you will just slowly grow apart, which I would imagine makes a breakup easier at that point.

Actually we have spoken heavily over these 2 topics.. We've actually spent most of our relationship apart, well I would say at 1 year in the last 18 months I have had to be in other cities for business / visa processes or bad luck I got stuck in SH for nearly 3 months locked down.. We actually do really really well apart, we maintain a great communication chain and understand that being apart requires extra patience and trust.

In terms of the children she said she wouldnt have kids here.. However things do change I really do believe she is willing to leave at some point. I'm not trying to convince her to leave now.. I've known since we met years ago I would support her education, she works her tail off to get this type of education.

Also 4 years is such a long time, how did you manage the trust and separation anxiety of a period that long? I honestly trust her that she would be loyal and I havent the slightest thought to deny that you are right about her not having a whole lot of time during her studies. The entire relationship shes been an absolute savage with her focus. She has only missed 1 day of classes and that was when I broke my leg she took me to the hospital, other than that shes never missed a single day, not sick, period, fun, tired, or anything lol.

I appreciate you taking the time to reply my dude.