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(TL;DR Wife says she is unable to find happiness, I feel responsible even though she acknowledges that I gave everything I could. I am at a loss)
So I'm (m29) at a loss, my wife (f27) just told me that she is thinking about a divorce. This happened and I really don't have anyone to talk to how is completely neutral to our situation. So I'm posting here if not for advice, then at least for something cathartic to help me sleep tonight.
A little back story
My wife and I started dating about 10 years ago, most our relationship was long distance until we married in the summer of 2010. Needless to say we had a lot of issues ranging from her mom walking in on us having while she was supposed to be at school. (I had moved in with a friend's family after I graduated to be close to her). There was the time that She came to visit me and we ended fighting over something dumb and I ended up leaving her at an airport 6 hours before her flight home. Our relationship was always until recently. (3 years)
once we finally got into the grove of being near each other and we moved to Fargo to get away from her family (great people and I do consider them my own and they love me too which really makes this harder, they just have a tendency to pry and judge.) Our relationship really started to flourish.
We are both working trying to pay off debts from youthful mistakes, slowly but surely we are making progress. we have come a long way from constant fighting and other issues. The only thing left that SHE has to work on is her happiness. She has never really been on her own, and has always struggled with finding happiness. She has either jumped to terrible relationships when we weren't together, has lived with folks or roommates or myself.
So tonight she tells me that she doesn't know how to be happy, And that even though I would be a great dad and love her so unconditionally to the point that I sacrifice my happiness to help her find her happiness she is just unable to and it isn't my fault, I am still at a loss. The worst part is she told me that, I give her everything I have to give and she is still unhappy. I get that I cannot be responsible for someone else's happiness, but I still feel like my best isn't good enough. and that just sucks.